Common
Online Myths
Author: Terri{The Wolf's Own} © 2000 used with permission This article is copyrighted to the stated author(s) and can not be reproduced, copied, reprinted, or posted without the consent of the author. It is used here with permission of the author.
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One thing that has become very apparent to me is the amount of common online myths associated with Ds or BDSM. Some of them annoy the hell out of me, some of them want to make me cringe. But I will attempt to go through some of the myths/beliefs that for some reason are very prevalant online, and hopefully explain why they do not apply to me. I am a Dom/Master, Hear me Roar Sending an instant message to me on icq or other, and claiming to be a Dom, and expecting instant respect. I have to ask. Why??? Anyone can cap their name, or type in all caps, it doesnt make them a Dom, it doesnt even make them an adult. It simply, til proven otherwise, makes them someone with an ISP, ICQ, and some small ability to type. I say small ability, becuase most of those who seem to use this method replace you with u, I see with ic, etc. Shouting face to face wouldnt make you a Dom, so why do people think the online equivilant makes them a Dom online. It doesnt. I could easily walk into a chat room with my name capped and claim to be a Domme, it wouldnt make me one, but the odds are I could pull it off better than most who contact me this way. Name Calling "kneel, bitch." Kneel and Worship Me The other part of the 'kneel, bitch' message. Submission isnt something that is given away to some stranger on icq. I am not saying (before anyone emails me about this) that online Ds collars mean nothing, what I am trying to say is this. Be it online or in real life, submission isnt given away to a complete stranger just becuase He greets you by the phrase kneel bitch/slut etc. You talk, perhaps for many months, perhaps only a few days, but something is felt within the submissive, a need, a desire to submit to this one. There are those we can meet, normally face to face, where this submission is felt instantly. From those I have spoken to this is RARE. And even when felt it is simply not wise to instantly submit to that person. Kneel to show respect if that is something you feel towards them, kneel and beg for a collar from a stranger, not wise. Potentially dangerous, infact. So contacting someone on ICQ or in a Chat room and expecting them to kneel instantly to you, is a joke. At least to me. You are not worthy Of what? If you are a submissive You MUST Obey Me I have one question to ask about this.. I am Your Masters Master Yes, I have actually had some people claim this. And after I clean up the coffee, juice etc and stop choking, my normal response is this. My Master does not have a Master, He has never been a sub, never worn a collar, and I dont appreciate liars. Yes, there are those Dom/mes that have at one time or another been a submissive, or slave. Sometimes it is becuase this is how they learned. (I have been told this was in some ways common in the Old Guard and Leather brigade) That Dom/me may still have a lot of respect for the person they were once collared to, but I have yet to hear them still call that person Master. I am not saying it doesnt happen, simply that I have never come across it. My Master didnt learn that way, so does not have a Master. All Masters share their subs/slaves WRONG! Real Slaves dont have limits Why? Ds = S&M I think this is one of the most misunderstood things
online. That being involved in Ds means I must enjoy pain. It doesnt
mean that at all. It doesnt mean there isnt any pain in our relationship,
only that its not Sub/Slave=weak/fearful There are many more online myths, more than I have had the chance to write about yet, but I am sure I will sooner or later. What saddens me is those that actually think this is the Way it is in Real Life. That they can, after proclaiming themselves a Dom, walk up to any sub, insult her, slap her or order her around. It takes the whole idea of Consent out of Ds , and puts it in the reams of abuse. When you tell them this, they get astonded, often replying with the.."But subs like to be abused dont they, thats what this is all about..isnt it" And the fact they truly dont get it, is the saddest thing of all. There are some wonderful people online, that dont act like this at all. That have helped me learn, encouraged me, and in some rare cases become very good friends. So before anyone thinks I have a problem with online, I dont, just with some of the myths here. |
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